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Making the choice to seek counseling can be a difficult decision. It often comes after recognizing that you cannot fix things by yourself and acknowledging that the same old approaches are just not working. At RCS we work with a wide variety of issues but we are specially trained and focused on two primary areas; Enhancing confidence and self-esteem for women/teens and addressing communication and infidelity issues for couples. We take our jobs seriously and are passionate about stepping into help you resolve life issues. As the primary therapist and owner I want you to have a successfully counseling experience. I careful select counselors who have the skill to help you succeed but most of all truly care about helping people. Please call us today and start your journey!
Dr. Kirleen R. Neely
Chief Executive Officer
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JOIN US FOR A LIFE CHANGING SEMINAR!
Do you ever think to yourself, “I’ll never have a successful relationship or What’s wrong with me, Why do I keep attracting all the wrong people?”
You do not ATTRACT the wrong people into your life, you ACCEPT the wrong people. Understanding how your BACKSTORY is affecting your relationship choices may be the key. Dr. Neely will host a two hour seminar in August of 2015 for women who want to finally find the love they want and keep it. Check back next week for more details on how you can register.
Dr. Neely is Excited to Announce the Release of Her First Children’s Book Titled
Book Description: Straight Talk is geared towards children in the 6-12 year age group. The book is intended to spur mothers and daughters to have straightforward conversations on the tough topic of self-acceptance. Mothers routinely tell their girls they should love themselves, but often don’t have the words to explain the history behind the message. The book is based on Dr. Neely’s research on dominate beauty standards and hair loss for young women of color. Read more about this exciting new book!
Tip of the Month for July 2015
Thinking Habits that cause Distress
We all have unique ways of thinking and interpreting events that happen to us. You might find that over the years you develop ways of thinking that are not very helpful to you relationships, productivity, and many other important areas of your life. These unhealthy thinking habits usually cause us more harm than good, and they are often followed by feelings of guilt, sadness, anger, anxiety, and depression. To help minimize any unwanted feelings or thoughts, the first step is to recognize when you are thinking in unhealthy ways. Below are some of the most common unhealthy thinking habits.
- Emotional Reasoning: This is just as it sounds, when we solely use our emotions or feelings to reason for us, making decisions off of pure emotion can sometimes put us in unhealthy situations. Just because something feels good doesn’t mean that it is good for us, and just because something feels bad doesn’t mean that it is bad for us. To challenge this way of thinking you must realize that feelings and emotions are reactions to your thoughts, and your thoughts are usually automatic reflexes of your brain. You can retrain your brain with affirmations and journaling.
- Predicting: When we go through experiences that typically have the same outcome, we tend to get a sense of confidence that we KNOW it will continue to be that way. Predicting is when we believe we know what is going to happen in the future. The problem with this way of thinking is that you really don’t KNOW what will happen in the future, and this can cause you to miss out on opportunities and add additional stress or anxiety. To challenge this thinking habit you can ask yourself “Do I really know the future?” or “How can I predict the future?”.
- All or Nothing/ Black and White Thinking: When people believe that there is no middle ground and things have to be one way or another, they are considered “closed minded” and their perspectives are limited. This way of thinking limits growth in your personal life and in your relationships, by not being able to empathize or understand the world around you. To challenge this extreme way of thinking you can ask yourself “What is another way to view this?” or “How would someone else interpret this?”.
- Mental Filtering: This is when you only see the positives or negatives about a person or situation, by filtering out the rest of the evidence. You can be having the time of your life and when one negative detail appears you suddenly zoom in on the negative, and disregard all the positive. This could also happen where you zoom in on the positive and disregard the negative. To challenge this thought, you can ask you self “Am I only noticing the bad/good things?” or “What is a more realistic way to view this?”.
- Should and Must: This way of thinking sets unrealistic expectations for yourself and others, and it adds additional stress and pressure. When you think that you “must” or others “should”, it is a set up for you to be let down. To help with this thinking habit you can ask yourself, “Is there such thing as perfect?” or ” What is truly in my control?”.
As mentioned before, these unhealthy thinking habits can cause distress in your personal life or in your relationships. It is believed that if you can control your thoughts and feelings, then you can control you actions. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help you indentify how your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are all influenced by each other, and then help you retrain yourself to have more positive outcome in your life. If you are interested in more information please contact me.
By: Whitni Faulkner, MA, NCC, LPC-Intern
This month’s featured therapist is Whitni Faulkner. Whitni graduated from the University of Texas San Antonio with a Masters degree in Counseling. She loves working with adolescents and utilizes a solution focused approach in therapy. Call us today to schedule your appointment with Whitni!