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The feeling of not being good enough

About eight years ago I met a beautiful 18 year old  woman who was completely bald. She described living in a world of isolation, shame, and deep feelings of worthlessness. Her hair loss was largely due her own feverish attempt to chemically and physically change the look of her natural hair. She described growing up in a home where she was repeatedly told she had ugly hair,  a very common experience for many girls of color.

I was captivated by the power hair holds for womenHer story forced me to look at my own experiences and views on hair. I quickly realized that although I did not have hair loss, I did have the common childhood experiences of being hair shamed. I too had spent most of my life feverishly trying to  fit into society’s dominant standard of beauty. I later learned that there is a mass epidemic of hair loss among very young women of color for this exact same reason. I wanted answers and solutions.

When You Need Answers You Do Research. I decided to conduct a qualitative research to better understand the complexities of this issue. The study found that the need to fit into dominate beauty standards leads many girls of color down a road of disconnection from their natural hair. They idealize the dominate beauty standard and excessively braid, dye and weave their hair to the point of hair loss in many instances. The end result is psychological and emotional devastating.

Doing My Part to Change the ConversationSelf -Esteem is formed in childhood. I wrote a children’s book to address hair shaming and empower girls to know their value. The book has given me the opportunity to travel and speak to international audience about my research and hair shaming.


Dr. Neely’s Book!

Straight Talk, Winner of the Indie Excellence Book Award!

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Sisterry s Morgan and Maddie give their mother nothing but trouble when it comes to combing their hair. They try many tricks to get out of the process and, more importantly, are convinced that getting a hair relaxer will be the answer to all their troubles. Their mother does not know that some family friends have made the girls feel that they have BAD, ugly hair. This funny, cute, story unfolds as their mother takes the girls on a ride through history to learn self-acceptance.

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A Qualitative Inquiry: Untangling The Psychological Implications of Hair Loss And Dominant Beauty Standards For African American Women In Early Adulthood: by Dr. Kirleen Neely

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Researchers and hair professionals have noted an epidemic of hair loss among African American women. When medical disease is ruled out, hair grooming practice aimed at making African type hair more Eurocentric is said to be a contributing factor. Hair loss for any woman can impact self-esteem, body image satisfaction, and overall level of happiness. For African American women, abstaining from damaging hair grooming practices may be difficult because of historic discrimination based on hair type and texture. This qualitative study examined eight African American women between the ages of 20 and 32 who have experienced hair loss due to hair grooming practices. Further, the study explored the influence of dominant beauty standards on their


 


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Dr. Neely, Natural Hair Texas and Plaid for Women Radio have a great conversation about kids and natural hair. Click this link to listen